Taking ownership and listening to others are arguably two of the most challenging things that most people have to deal with in relationships – namely myself.
In everyday life I like to think that I am quite a good listener, however not exactly the same can be said when listening to friends (or my mum and sister) when faced with advice. So as you will have guessed, the advice pill becomes almost impossible to swallow when it’s to do with relationships as I am a person (like many others – I hope!) who is often in denial.
Three of the biggest lessons I have learnt from relationships are this:
Don’t look back with rose tinted spectacles
Own up when you’re in the wrong
You can’t control other people’s feelings
The last point for me is the most important, and something that a friend told me recently. Basically what is the point in stressing about things when you can’t control someone else’s actions – and why should you want to? Once you learn to accept that you cannot control other people’s feelings or actions you can learn to relax and be more trusting. And it totally makes sense. I mean let’s think about it – why would we want to try and control someone else? Then they’re only doing things because they feel like they have to and not because they want to.
Don’t make life more complicated than it already is – respect yourself enough to take ownership of your life and actions ♡